Blended Holidays

The most wonderful time of the year is upon us once again. If you’re like me, you feel more pressure at this time of the year than any other. My to-do list is a mile longer than usual, I don’t yet have holiday decorations displayed, and I’m dreading the purchase of gifts for my children who will likely be unimpressed with my creative selections. As if the holidays aren’t stressful enough, many of you are endeavoring to have a hap-hap-happy blended family holiday. Those who have experienced blended family bliss can avow to the real-life struggles in blending families, even with all the nostalgia of the holiday season. Success in blending requires planning, thoughtfulness, and consistency. Successful blended families devise ways to unite two families in closeness while maintaining a distinct relationship with their own children. Now that is easier said than done, but not impossible. Start with our Chandler family lawyer’s top ten for a positive blended family holiday.

#10: Speak positively of all children’s other parents.

#9: Draw family members’ names for the purpose of doing secret acts of service all month long.

#8: Agree upon and employ a family motto for the upcoming year.

#7: Use a calendar to display all family members’ schedules for the holidays and family events.

#6: Spend extra one-on-one time with your own children in advance of the holidays.

#5: Discuss gifts with your partner to ensure the children have similar holiday experiences.

#4: If your parenting plan does not clearly divide the holidays, communicate in advance to lock down specifics.

#3: Create a new blended family tradition.

#2: Plan activities that will encourage laughter. Laughter is bonding medicine.

#1: Make “Unite Not Alienate” your running mantra and let it guide your decisions.